Let’s face it, breakups feel like trauma—especially when you didn’t want it. And even if you were the one who initiated it, it can still crush you. Sometimes we have to do what we have to do, even though it hurts. Whether you were together for 6 months or 30 years, breakups hurt. Seriously hurt. Scientists are discovering that the …
Laughter and the Strong Woman- Using Laughter as a Form of Self Care
Philosopher and psychologist, William James said, “We don’t laugh because we’re happy, we are happy because we laugh.” He understood, more than a century ago- laughter makes us feel good. Today, we’re still exploring the many health benefits and embracing concepts such as laughter yoga and laughter therapy. I addressed laughter in my self-care book because my mom taught me about …
Are You Doing Boundaries Wrong?
I notice that some people who recognize the importance of boundaries seem to be missing the mark when it comes to erecting healthy ones. I had a conversation with someone online that quickly took a wrong turn. Her response to me was, “you just crossed my boundary,” because I asked a pointed (albeit possibly rhetorical) question about the message she …
Making Joint Decisions in Your Relationship When You’d Rather Not
Decisions are tough to make when you’re single. They’re doubly tough when you’re a couple. Toss in a little conflict and they can feel downright impossible. And it’s no surprise that you don’t agree. If you subscribe to the idea that we marry our opposite- it’s actually a little more complicated than that, but let’s just say we marry our …
Consider This Before You Promise To Change For Your Partner
Here’s the scenario. Something happened. You messed up again. Your partner gave you an ultimatum or you hit rock bottom on some level. Maybe the scale screamed a number bigger than you have seen or even want to admit. Maybe your boss gave you a subtle warning that your job could be on the chopping block. Maybe you woke up …
Why Self Love Matters For the Woman of Faith
Today we’re talking all about that relationship with yourself and self-love and why for women, especially, it can be a little difficult. And we got to work on that. I don’t know if I told this story already – I feel like I did, but I’m going to tell it again because it really hit me hard. I participate in …
What to Do While You’re Single and Waiting for Love
Many of the things I write about are not new- maybe my spin on them is unique. But ultimately, I am holding space for this one moment in time for you to focus on this aspect of your life. You have probably been doing all the things- focusing on yourself, self care, upleveling. You feel like you’ve got a good …
When A Friendship Needs to End
Let me start with a prayer from Author Cole Riley. It is a Prayer for those who have outgrown a friend: Dear God, It is difficult to allow for evolution in our friendships. I confess that I cling to others out of an insecurity of fear or familiarity, and I become resistant to imagining a future where I am not …
Why All The Relationship Advice Isn’t Working For You
I have been listening to relationship podcasts, following other relationship experts on social and all of them give very good advice, but as I have been consuming it, I found myself realizing NONE of it will work with certain relationships. None of it! That why so many women find themselves frustrated, hopeless and feeling like there is something wrong with …
How To Own Your Extra When You Feel Like Too Much
At least once a week, a woman in my practice says, I feel like my needs are just too much. I felt like too much as a child and I feel like too much in my marriage or with my friends. Today, dear friend, I’m talking to you. I have been called a drama queen- mostly by my family members. …