So many of my clients complain that their men aren’t showing up for them in the way they want. What I’m going to talk about may feel controversial to some, but as independent and feminist as I am in my thinking, I am also keenly aware of the real biological/hormonal differences in men and women and how that affects our …
6 Tips for Healing After a Breakup
Let’s face it, breakups feel like trauma—especially when you didn’t want it. And even if you were the one who initiated it, it can still crush you. Sometimes we have to do what we have to do, even though it hurts. Whether you were together for 6 months or 30 years, breakups hurt. Seriously hurt. Scientists are discovering that the …
10 Apps for Long-Distance Couples to Stay Connected
Guest Post, written by Farlyn Lucas Sometimes, work throws our relationships a curveball by making distance a thing temporarily. Careers like corporate employees, or in healthcare like traveling nurses, can face unpredictable work schedules. Without communication technology, this often puts a strain on relationships. Instead of relying on outdated chat software, using the best relationship apps for couples will provide …
Professional Tips To Emotionally Get Over A Divorce After A Long Marriage
Guest Post, written by Arlene Westcott No one goes into a marriage thinking they’ll ever have to face a divorce. Regardless of the reason, divorce can shake the whole constitution one has built a lot of time and effort on. Many people who have gone through this emotionally taxing process find themselves lost and unrecognizable. Therapy can guide you in …
6 Ways to Cope with Grief in a Marriage
Guest Post, written by Sarah Kessler One of the best parts of marriage is that you face challenges as a team. And one of the hardest things we face in life is the loss of someone we love. When grief happens, it can affect everything in your life, including (and sometimes especially) your relationship or marriage. If you are grieving …
Laughter and the Strong Woman- Using Laughter as a Form of Self Care
Philosopher and psychologist, William James said, “We don’t laugh because we’re happy, we are happy because we laugh.” He understood, more than a century ago- laughter makes us feel good. Today, we’re still exploring the many health benefits and embracing concepts such as laughter yoga and laughter therapy. I addressed laughter in my self-care book because my mom taught me about …
Are You Doing Boundaries Wrong?
I notice that some people who recognize the importance of boundaries seem to be missing the mark when it comes to erecting healthy ones. I had a conversation with someone online that quickly took a wrong turn. Her response to me was, “you just crossed my boundary,” because I asked a pointed (albeit possibly rhetorical) question about the message she …
Your Two Competing Drives That Sabotage Your Relationship
Did you know that when you are interacting in your relationships, you have two competing internal parts that influence your interactions? It’s often why relationships feel so complicated. And to further muddle things up, your partner also has two competing parts that you are communicating with. These competing parts are the drive to connect and the drive to protect. It’s …
Making Joint Decisions in Your Relationship When You’d Rather Not
Decisions are tough to make when you’re single. They’re doubly tough when you’re a couple. Toss in a little conflict and they can feel downright impossible. And it’s no surprise that you don’t agree. If you subscribe to the idea that we marry our opposite- it’s actually a little more complicated than that, but let’s just say we marry our …
Consider This Before You Promise To Change For Your Partner
Here’s the scenario. Something happened. You messed up again. Your partner gave you an ultimatum or you hit rock bottom on some level. Maybe the scale screamed a number bigger than you have seen or even want to admit. Maybe your boss gave you a subtle warning that your job could be on the chopping block. Maybe you woke up …