Are you in a difficult Marriage Blog

How to Make Peace With Uncertainty in Your Relationship

I remember being a young newlywed and I was young- 19 when I got married. My husband is significantly older than I am and he had a close friend in her 40’s. She was divorcing her husband of 20 years....

When You Compare Your Relationship and Yours Comes Up Short

I used to be that girl who felt jealous of other's relationships. You know, THOSE couples who finish each other's sentences, do everything together, say they never fight, are truly the best of friends - maybe even wear matching outfits...

What To Do When Your Partner Triggers You

What is a trigger anyway? What To Do When Your Partner Triggers You Basically, you can’t live in this world without collecting some wounds. Experiences of being unheard, devalued, deceived, criticized, or betrayed are examples of these wounds. Once you’ve...

When You and Your Partner Disagree on a Big Issue

Do you and your partner disagree on a big issue? Maybe he’s a republican, you’re a democrat. Maybe he thinks COVID is a scam and you are fearful of your health. Maybe he doesn’t care about the movement and you...

Why Strong Women Stay in Bad Relationships

Today I’m talking about why smart, strong women stay in LOW-quality relationships and what you can do about it. I’m not talking about physically abusive relationships, although some low-quality relationships do have some verbal or emotional abuse. I’m talking about...

The 4 Communication Styles That Predict Divorce

Did you know that the issues in your marriage have little to do with the health of your marriage? It's not too surprising because I always talk about self-talk and how important it is. Well, guess what? The way you...

Are You Romanticizing Your Relationship?

I love Dr. Maya Angelou’s quote “When people show you who they are- believe them”. It’s so good because most issues we have in relationships are that people will tell us who they are, but we decide to create a...

It’s the things you don’t say that damage your relationship

The things we don’t say in relationships are the things that get us in the most trouble. Common knowledge is that it’s the words that slip out of our mouths that get us into the biggest trouble.  But I’m flipping...

When You Feel Insecure In Your Relationship

You would think that after you have been married, your insecurity about your relationship should dissipate. That the longer you stay together, it should resolve itself. Unfortunately, I have not seen this to be the case. Granted, I know that...

To The Woman In A Difficult Relationship

‘I think I’ll marry a difficult guy and have a difficult relationship…’ said no one ever. And yet, several women in my practice, my friends, and acquaintances find themselves in difficult relationships.  There’s this book by Mira Kirshenbaum- "Too Good...