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When Someone You Love Won’t Change

Despite my mantra—we’re not fixing them, we’re fixing you, and that changes everything—most people still come to me because they want someone in their life to change. The biggest issues we have in relationships is that we expect the people...

3 Things My Divorce Taught Me About Co-Dependency

What do you even call a divorce anniversary? There really should be a name for it. People don’t typically celebrate these things—and I’m certainly not planning to—but the date is coming up. Two years. And as much as I don’t...

Professional Tips To Emotionally Get Over A Divorce After A Long Marriage

Guest Post, written by Arlene Westcott No one goes into a marriage thinking they'll ever have to face a divorce. Regardless of the reason, divorce can shake the whole constitution one has built a lot of time and effort on....

6 Ways to Cope with Grief in a Marriage

Guest Post, written by Sarah Kessler One of the best parts of marriage is that you face challenges as a team. And one of the hardest things we face in life is the loss of someone we love. When grief...

Your Two Competing Drives That Sabotage Your Relationship

Did you know that when you are interacting in your relationships, you have two competing internal parts that influence your interactions? It’s often why relationships feel so complicated. And to further muddle things up, your partner also has two competing...

Why You’re Likely to Marry Your Parent (and what you can do about it)

I’m sure you’ve thought yourself or heard someone say, “I married my mother” or “I married my father.” Oodles of truth exists in that statement.  Despite our inability to recognize it, we do often marry someone like our mother or our...

Are You Crazy or Are You Being Gaslighted?

I once had a client who came in because she was having problems in her relationship with her significant other. All the signs were screaming at her that he was being unfaithful. It was glaringly clear, but every time she...

How to Like Your Husband

Sometimes it's a slow realization. Sometimes something happens that hits you over the head and you think, I don't even like this man. It can be a scary place to be when you finally admit it to yourself. As I...

How to Know if You Have Unrealistic Expectations of Your Husband?

At least a couple of times a week, a client who is feeling some type of angst about a relationship will ask me, am I expecting too much? Am I being realistic? And I’ve noticed, it’s often the ones that...

Are You Becoming Your Husband’s Mother?

I might step on some toes today, but it’s in your best interest, so get ready. Are you acting like a mother or a wife to your spouse? Is your daily mantra a constant telling him to do the things-...