Today we’re talking all about that relationship with yourself and self-love and why for women, especially, it can be a little difficult. And we got to work on that. I don’t know if I told this story already – I feel like I did, but I’m going to tell it again because it really hit me hard. I participate in …
Why You’re Likely to Marry Your Parent (and what you can do about it)
I’m sure you’ve thought yourself or heard someone say, “I married my mother” or “I married my father.” Oodles of truth exists in that statement. Despite our inability to recognize it, we do often marry someone like our mother or our father. Why? First and foremost, we confuse familiarity with attraction. We’re attracted to what we know. Secondly and most importantly, …
Are You Crazy or Are You Being Gaslighted?
I once had a client who came in because she was having problems in her relationship with her significant other. All the signs were screaming at her that he was being unfaithful. It was glaringly clear, but every time she confronted him about it, he blew up in anger, accusing her of being overly sensitive, insecure and explained that it …
What to Do While You’re Single and Waiting for Love
Many of the things I write about are not new- maybe my spin on them is unique. But ultimately, I am holding space for this one moment in time for you to focus on this aspect of your life. You have probably been doing all the things- focusing on yourself, self care, upleveling. You feel like you’ve got a good …
When A Friendship Needs to End
Let me start with a prayer from Author Cole Riley. It is a Prayer for those who have outgrown a friend: Dear God, It is difficult to allow for evolution in our friendships. I confess that I cling to others out of an insecurity of fear or familiarity, and I become resistant to imagining a future where I am not …
How to Like Your Husband
Sometimes it’s a slow realization. Sometimes something happens that hits you over the head and you think, I don’t even like this man. It can be a scary place to be when you finally admit it to yourself. As I was reading your Instagram comments and DM’s to me this week, I was struck by the struggle some of you …
How to Know if You Have Unrealistic Expectations of Your Husband?
At least a couple of times a week, a client who is feeling some type of angst about a relationship will ask me, am I expecting too much? Am I being realistic? And I’ve noticed, it’s often the ones that ask that are being completely realistic with their expectations. It’s the ones that don’t ask and are already convinced their …
Are You Becoming Your Husband’s Mother?
I might step on some toes today, but it’s in your best interest, so get ready. Are you acting like a mother or a wife to your spouse? Is your daily mantra a constant telling him to do the things- back seat driving, taking over his tasks because you’re “better at it”, asking him to pick this up, put this …
How to Restore an Estranged Family Relationship
My heart has been heavy with so many people in my life- friends and clients alike who feel distance and estrangement in their relationships. Something has happened, whether it was a clear breach or a slow distancing. Moms who feel hopeless about being able to connect with their children- sisters estranged. It may take longer than you want and the …
Five Relationship Myths That Keep You Unhappy
1. If I tell him what I want him to do, then it’s not genuine if he does it I often have this conversation with my clients: “What are your needs or what do you want from him?” I’ll ask. She usually has no problem telling me what that is. Then I ask, “have you laid all of that out …