Guest Post, written by Arlene Westcott No one goes into a marriage thinking they’ll ever have to face a divorce. Regardless of the reason, divorce can shake the whole constitution one has built a lot of time and effort on. Many people who have gone through this emotionally taxing process find themselves lost and unrecognizable. Therapy can guide you in …
6 Ways to Cope with Grief in a Marriage
Guest Post, written by Sarah Kessler One of the best parts of marriage is that you face challenges as a team. And one of the hardest things we face in life is the loss of someone we love. When grief happens, it can affect everything in your life, including (and sometimes especially) your relationship or marriage. If you are grieving …
Your Two Competing Drives That Sabotage Your Relationship
Did you know that when you are interacting in your relationships, you have two competing internal parts that influence your interactions? It’s often why relationships feel so complicated. And to further muddle things up, your partner also has two competing parts that you are communicating with. These competing parts are the drive to connect and the drive to protect. It’s …
Why You’re Likely to Marry Your Parent (and what you can do about it)
I’m sure you’ve thought yourself or heard someone say, “I married my mother” or “I married my father.” Oodles of truth exists in that statement. Despite our inability to recognize it, we do often marry someone like our mother or our father. Why? First and foremost, we confuse familiarity with attraction. We’re attracted to what we know. Secondly and most importantly, …
Are You Crazy or Are You Being Gaslighted?
I once had a client who came in because she was having problems in her relationship with her significant other. All the signs were screaming at her that he was being unfaithful. It was glaringly clear, but every time she confronted him about it, he blew up in anger, accusing her of being overly sensitive, insecure and explained that it …
How to Like Your Husband
Sometimes it’s a slow realization. Sometimes something happens that hits you over the head and you think, I don’t even like this man. It can be a scary place to be when you finally admit it to yourself. As I was reading your Instagram comments and DM’s to me this week, I was struck by the struggle some of you …
How to Know if You Have Unrealistic Expectations of Your Husband?
At least a couple of times a week, a client who is feeling some type of angst about a relationship will ask me, am I expecting too much? Am I being realistic? And I’ve noticed, it’s often the ones that ask that are being completely realistic with their expectations. It’s the ones that don’t ask and are already convinced their …
Are You Becoming Your Husband’s Mother?
I might step on some toes today, but it’s in your best interest, so get ready. Are you acting like a mother or a wife to your spouse? Is your daily mantra a constant telling him to do the things- back seat driving, taking over his tasks because you’re “better at it”, asking him to pick this up, put this …
Five Relationship Myths That Keep You Unhappy
1. If I tell him what I want him to do, then it’s not genuine if he does it I often have this conversation with my clients: “What are your needs or what do you want from him?” I’ll ask. She usually has no problem telling me what that is. Then I ask, “have you laid all of that out …
When your relationship is changing what do you do?
It’s painful when an important person in your life stops showing up in the same way. How do you hang on to a relationship and yet let go at the same time when things have changed? Maybe you’re a mother and your child is getting ready to start kindergarten. Your baby has morphed into a school-aged kid and needs you …