Ultimatums have a bad reputation and when I started thinking about this topic, I googled it as I always do as part of my prep for the episode. I was shocked to read article after article about how much damage ultimatums cause in relationships.
In this episode, I explain why an ultimatum isn’t necessarily a bad thing and how it can be used as a tool to set boundaries for yourself and bring out healthy behaviors in your partner.
Health Tip
In this Health Tip segment, I discuss a recent study from Yale University that found people who read books live an average of two years longer than those who don’t.
Mentioned In This Episode:
Yale Alumni Magazine | Bookworms live longer
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Dr. Shaw repeatedly talks about searching using Google…..suggest people needing information use a few easy strategies to go beyond Google to get to quality information faster.
For example: use Google advanced to limit to .edu or .gov or .org domains. This limits information to trusted/quality information, eliminating .com information from the search.
Librarians all over the country have guides to finding and evaluating information. For example: here is one from U. Rhode Island: https://uri.libguides.com/quality.
Librarians use software called libguides to create and maintain guides. Search tip: can limit searches to these guides just by adding the word libguides to a search. A search for boundaries libguides retrieved this guide https://libguides.jeffco.edu/boundaries.
PubMed and MedlinePlus from the National Institutes of Health, National Library of Medicine are also great places to start. Pubmed is the premier biomedical database for health care professionals. MedlinePlus is the web site curated by librarians of trusted health information for citizens. For example, a search of Medlineplus for boundaries retrieved this Mayo Clinic article: https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/assertive/art-20044644?p=1