So, a client got me thinking. He was discussing waiting until marriage to have sex. He expressed his respect for that choice, but also his concern as a dating, single male. He said, “What if I marry her and then find out that we are not sexually compatible?” I can certainly understand his concern. Some people would say, well, if you have never had sex before, you won’t know any difference and it won’t matter. But the majority of people who are abstinent are re-committing to abstinence (some coming out of marriages) who have had prior sexual experiences and are worried about that sexual compatibility because, well, they actually will know the difference.
So, I decided to do some research into this issue, realizing it is one that many couples are facing. In part, sexual compatibility is a modern construct, born out of a culture with an abundance of sexual experiences. If someone gave you your brand new dream car, you would be like, “Wow, thanks!! Amazing!!” But if you regularly received brand new dream cars and you were offered another one and were being asked to commit to only driving that one, you may be like, “ummm. let me test drive it first…” In all fairness, research does demonstrate that a lack of sexual compatibility in relationships leads to…Write comment (0 Comments)